How to Build Confidence
Confidence is the master key to making all of your dreams come true even in the midst of trials and tribulations. Here are the top 5 keys that show you how to build confidence if this is an area that you struggle with. Once you master these keys and build your self confidence, all doors that were previously shut to you will be opened.
I am certain that there are extremely confident people that you know or have seen. People that you have said that you would like to be like. How could you tell that they were confident? Maybe it was because of the way they talked, or carried themselves. Self confidence is especially evident through someone’s speech and also their body language.
Everyone is capable of learning how to become self confident. This is not something that anyone has to be born with. We have all had events in our lives that have knocked our confidence down but it is time to pick it back up again.
1. Self Concept
In order to build self confidence, the first step is to change the way you think about yourself. You will need to examine your self image to determine what your self defeating ideas about yourself are. Stop programming yourself for failure with your self image and what you say about yourself.
It is time to reprogram yourself and one way to do this is to replace all the negative thoughts about yourself with positive ones. This may be hard to do at the beginning but it is very important and you shall have to do it daily.
You need to realize that if you do not believe that you are worth it, you shall never achieve anything worthwhile and your dreams shall remain exactly that – dreams. Make building your self confidence a priority.
2. Body Language
Be aware of how you are using your body because your body language speaks volumes to others. For instance, when you cross your arms across your body, this signifies to others that you are closed off or nervous and not that you are confident with yourself.
People are always evaluating your body language in social situations and it is always important to be aware of how you are presenting yourself. If you fold your arms, slouch, do not make eye contact, these all convey negative messages to others.
3. Change Environment
Look around you and see who you surround yourself with or the environment that you are in. Do the people or surrounding support confidence building or is it negative. Do all your friends speak negatively? Misery loves company! If you are miserable and mistreated on your job, it may be time to switch jobs.
Do your friends or family members sow seeds of discouragement and doubt in you by saying that you will never be able to achieve your dreams or better yourself? If so they are spiritual vampires and you will need to make a decision to either limit your contact with them or remove yourself from them entirely.
Building your self esteem and confidence is a very important undertaking which involves what you hear. Hear the right things and watch your confidence increase bit by bit.
Venture out into new environments and make new acquaintances who do not know you and have not made judgments about you and do not have pre-conceived notions about you.
4. Practice, Practice, Practice
Being confidence takes daily practice. You may have to “fake it until you make it”. You have to create new habits every day to replace all the confidence destroying habits that you have practiced in the past.
Whether you believe it or not, in the beginning of confidence building, you have to act confident. Practice the speech patterns and the body language of a confident person that you know or have seen. If you do it long enough, it will become second nature to you.
5. Make the Achievement of Your Dreams Your Main Focus
Have you given up on your dreams? Do you believe that you will never achieve them? It is time to believe in yourself again and believe that you can achieve anything. As the saying goes, if you believe that you will never achieve, you are right! The reverse is also true, if you believe that nothing is impossible, guess what, you are right!
Far too many people have given up on their dreams. They have simply stopped trying because of a lack of confidence to continue the pursuit of their dreams and happiness.
Being confident means persevering in the midst of one obstacle after another.
